Your Nervous System Is Running the Show.
That’s why your home doesn’t feel like you yet.
If you’re snappy, shut down, or silently drowning in motherhood…
You’re not broken.
You’re just wired for survival.
I help ambitious, self-aware mums rewire their nervous systems, reclaim their identity, and create homes that actually feel safe, calm, and happy.
You weren’t meant to do this alone
Healing your nervous system. Rediscovering who you are. Reclaiming a home that feels good to live in.
This is deep work. Beautiful work. Brave work. And it’s not meant to happen in isolation.
That’s why I offer multiple ways to walk this path with me. Whether you’re dipping your toes in, craving full transformation, or just want something soul-nourishing in your ears, you’re welcome here.
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I want my family to shift out of survival mode and into calm—without overthinking it.
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I’m ready to rediscover who I am as a mum and rewire what’s not working in my home.
Hi, I’m Jess Arachchi
I’m not here to help you “keep it all together.”
I’m here to help you break the pattern, and finally feel free inside the life you’ve built.
As a mum, therapist, and nervous system mentor, I’ve spent over a decade supporting mums through disconnection, shutdowns, meltdowns, and chaos. Here’s what I know for sure:
You can’t shift your family dynamic if you’re still stuck in survival mode.
I help ambitious mums rewire their nervous systems, reconnect with who they are, and create homes that feel calm, connected, and drama-free.
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What a Few Clients Said
“In the moment I remembered your strategies and felt well-armed…
With your advice of getting curious I was able to have a 2 hour heart-felt conversation with my 13 year old daughter and this morning I just feel so connected to her. Usually I would retreat and give her space when she felt low but I did something different. In the past the pattern would be: I become very frustrated and come in with the rules. She then becomes defiant.
In the moment you just want them to do what you want. Thank you for sharing your strategies with me. In the moment I remembered them and I just felt well-armed.
I needed to set aside my taking it personally so I could see her clearly and kindly. You reminded me that there’s always a deeper motivation behind the behaviour which helped me get curious and to stay there with her longer than I would have. Usually it felt easier for me to retreat and for her to retreat. We ended up falling asleep together and I realised that this is what counts.”
“Our family dynamic has improved immensely since doing Jess’s course…
When I started Jess’s course there was a lot of anxiety and tension in our house. I felt like I was failing as a parent. Our family dynamic has improved immensely since doing Jess’s course. I have a deeper understanding of my children and hubby (as well as myself) which has improved our health and overall happiness.
You should definitely do this program. Not only will it make your home more harmonious but also more healthy and happy. I can’t think of any ways to improve on this course. I thought it was excellent how there were all the different speakers with valuable knowledge to share.”
“Have a happier, healthier mindset to help create a happy home…
I was worried about my son's behaviour and my reactions, and wanted to try a holistic approach to parenting to try and avoid medical intervention.
Since doing Jess’s course I have more patience and understanding for my son's emotional meltdowns and I am able to identify what he is needing from me and what my own lifestyle priorities are for healthy balance, so now we are bouncing back quicker from upsets. My own cloudiness and lack of energy has shifted.
I recommend this program if you want to understand family members with new eyes, get peace of mind knowing there is a reason, and learn alot about yourself as a parent and your needs to have a happier healthier mindset to help create a happy home.”
SIGNATURE PROGRAM
The Happy Home Program
Rewire Your Nervous System. Rewrite Your Home.
For mums who are done with survival mode and ready to raise their family from a place of calm, confidence, and deep connection.
If your home feels like a cycle of meltdowns, guilt, and pressure to “get it right,” this isn’t your fault.
It’s your nervous system doing what it’s always known.
This program helps you rewire that.
Inside, you’ll learn how to regulate in the moment—and finally understand your child’s behaviours for what they really are: survival responses, not misbehaviour.
Because a calm home doesn’t come from trying harder.
It comes from feeling safe in your own body first.
