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Tired of the meltdowns and yelling? Sick of trying everything but nothing works?

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Ever wondered how your family life turned out like this?

If you’re like a lot of parents we work with, you’re stressed and exhausted… And you never wanted to be one of those parents who yells at their kids.

Does this sound familiar?

  • Stress and meltdowns in your home every day (and that’s not just the kids!)
  • Wasting thousands on traditional and holistic therapies that haven’t helped
  • Wondering which practitioners you can trust to help your family
  • Trying out new approaches to parenting that don’t work
  • Feeling alone and embarrassed about what’s happening in your family

You just wish there was a way to change things for good… to deeply connect with your kids and enjoy your time with them… to create the calm, happy home you dream of.

It’s not your fault, because there’s something they’re not telling you…

Hi, I’m Jessica McIlveen, a child behaviour and family dynamic specialist with over 10 years of experience working in the fields of social work, psychology, biology, complex behaviours, child development, trauma, yoga therapy and neuroscience.

As you probably know, most of the traditional approaches to parenting use a combination of rewards, punishments and calm logic when our kids are upset.

But here’s the thing: these strategies try to work with parts of the brain children don’t have access to. Because when you try to use your logical adult brain to calm a child whose limbic system is activated, everything just gets worse. 

So what can you do? Instead of the surface behaviour you’re seeing, you need to parent the nervous system. Because your child’s nervous system is the real reason for what’s happening.

Just stop and read that again, because it’s important. And it’s an absolute game changer.

With this brand new approach, parents like you are:

  • Reducing meltdowns by up to 80%
  • Building their kids’ confidence
  • Reporting having a more connected, happier home (that’s what 80% of program participants say)
  • Creating real, lasting change in their families

I’ve created a range of online parenting courses so you can learn to parent the nervous system for a calmer, happier home.

Each of these courses gives you the tools to confidently support your child through the ‘big 4’: anger, anxiety, defiance and meltdowns.

There’s nothing more magical to me than hearing from a parent I’ve worked with that they’ve had the most beautiful connection moments with their child. I can’t wait to work with you and show you what’s possible for you and your family.

To your happy home
Jess

p.s. Just met me or want to know more about me? You can read my full story here

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What other parents say about working with me

“Our family dynamic has improved immensely since doing Jess’s course…
When I started Jess’s course there was a lot of anxiety and tension in our house. I felt like I was failing as a parent.

 

Our family dynamic has improved immensely since doing Jess’s course. I have a deeper understanding of my children and hubby (as well as myself) which has improved our health and overall happiness.
You should definitely do this program. Not only will it make your home more harmonious but also more healthy and happy.

 

I can’t think of any ways to improve on this course. I thought it was excellent how there were all the different speakers with valuable knowledge to share.”

 

Carla

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“As a parent I am more relaxed, calm, happier and energised…
Jessica’s sessions have helped me have more clarity to prioritise myself and to do the things I love to do. As a parent I am more relaxed, calm, happier and energised. My relationship with my husband has improved immensely. He is now showing more care and initiative to help me emotionally when I need it and he does more around the house without me having to ask him.

 

I started from a place of super overwhelm, exhausted, out of control emotionally, lost, at times lonely and lacking connection. I have been trying different ways to improve with no results and reverting to my old default ways.

 

I have had a lot of breakthroughs with the way Jessica presents action into simple baby steps. I have reduced my emotionally triggered outbursts and my yelling at the kids. Jessica did this by bringing to my attention and awareness as to why I was getting triggered and creating that clarity was huge for me.
Jessica is a strong, confident, gentle, and caring person and with this combination of traits was exactly what I needed. She helped me feel more grounded and more myself. I loved how she has a way of clearly seeing what is going on and knows what you need to help you move forward in a positive, encouraging and supportive way and most of all keeping you accountable. ”

 

Sandra

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“Have a happier, healthier mindset to help create a happy home…
I was worried about my son's behaviour and my reactions, and wanted to try a holistic approach to parenting to try and avoid medical intervention.Since doing Jess’s course I have more patience and understanding for my son's emotional meltdowns and I am able to identify what he is needing from me and what my own lifestyle priorities are for healthy balance, so now we are bouncing back quicker from upsets. My own cloudiness and lack of energy has shifted.

 

I recommend this program if you want to understand family members with new eyes, get peace of mind knowing there is a reason, and learn alot about yourself as a parent and your needs to have a happier healthier mindset to help create a happy home.”

 

Kaliope

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“As a parent I am more relaxed, calm, happier and energised…

Jessica’s sessions have helped me have more clarity to prioritise myself and to do the things I love to do. As a parent I am more relaxed, calm, happier and energised. My relationship with my husband has improved immensely. He is now showing more care and initiative to help me emotionally when I need it and he does more around the house without me having to ask him.

I started from a place of super overwhelm, exhausted, out of control emotionally, lost, at times lonely and lacking connection. I have been trying different ways to improve with no results and reverting to my old default ways.

I have had a lot of breakthroughs with the way Jessica presents action into simple baby steps. I have reduced my emotionally triggered outbursts and my yelling at the kids. Jessica did this by bringing to my attention and awareness as to why I was getting triggered and creating that clarity was huge for me.

Jessica is a strong, confident, gentle, and caring person and with this combination of traits was exactly what I needed. She helped me feel more grounded and more myself. I loved how she has a way of clearly seeing what is going on and knows what you need to help you move forward in a positive, encouraging and supportive way and most of all keeping you accountable. ”
Sandra
“Our family dynamic has improved immensely since doing Jess’s course…

When I started Jess’s course there was a lot of anxiety and tension in our house. I felt like I was failing as a parent.

Our family dynamic has improved immensely since doing Jess’s course. I have a deeper understanding of my children and hubby (as well as myself) which has improved our health and overall happiness. You should definitely do this program. Not only will it make your home more harmonious but also more healthy and happy.

I can’t think of any ways to improve on this course. I thought it was excellent how there were all the different speakers with valuable knowledge to share.”
Carla
“Have a happier, healthier mindset to help create a happy home…

I was worried about my son's behaviour and my reactions, and wanted to try a holistic approach to parenting to try and avoid medical intervention.Since doing Jess’s course I have more patience and understanding for my son's emotional meltdowns and I am able to identify what he is needing from me and what my own lifestyle priorities are for healthy balance, so now we are bouncing back quicker from upsets. My own cloudiness and lack of energy has shifted.

I recommend this program if you want to understand family members with new eyes, get peace of mind knowing there is a reason, and learn alot about yourself as a parent and your needs to have a happier healthier mindset to help create a happy home.”
Kaliope

Learn a brand new way to feel more confident, connected and calm parent the nervous system with my online parenting courses

(and let’s address the real reason for what’s happening with your kids)

Stop for a moment and picture this:

  • Less stress and yelling, more fun with your kids
  • Feeling like “I’ve got this!” when it comes to parenting
  • A home life that feels more like you imagined it – calm and happy

Sounds great, right? The good news is, that’s exactly what parents are saying is happening after they finish one of my online parenting courses:

Calm Kids Kickstart

Support your kids through big emotions by learning the exact method that reduces meltdowns by up to 80% in just 4 weeks

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Happy Home Program

Get the steps to create a happy home and feel confident by learning to parent the nervous system in this 8-week program

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Happy Home Accelerator Program

Radically transform your family life and home environment in 12 weeks with 1-on-1 coaching and your very own family plan for success

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Want a taste of what you’ll learn when you work with me? Start with my free training:
3 tools to get your child to listen when they’re upset, frustrated or angry.

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More kind words from parents

Hey Jess! Thank you for giving me the opportunity to learn about all of this super interesting stuff! I have been to GPS, paediatricians, dietitians, naturopaths, essential oil gurus, even had my girls assessed by Early Links throughout their preschool - NOT ONE of those people or providers even suggested to me that tantrums/meltdowns were normal, let alone good for them! Listening to you yesterday I felt instant relief, I can't wait for today 10am!
I watched the training video today on the CALM method and I have to say, no one has explained that as clearly and sympathetically to be before, ever. It was a huge light bulb moment and I've followed it tonight and guess what....Calm. I finally understand my fight or flight is escalating his response - amazing I'd never realised that so clearly before.
Biggest impact for me is learning about what im actually doing or not doing for my child, its brought us more connection even in such a short time I can see with persistence and consistency how it can make major improvements.
OMG I love listing to you and watching you Jess, you are so engaging & explain concepts and ideas in such a wonderful kind way!!! love love love this opportunity.

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